Our world of too many choices is killing us. It makes us want more and more and more.
Online dating is a world of way too many choices and actually makes us less happy dating. The more women/men we are given, the less satisfied we are with whom we chose. If we had two/three choices it would be easy to pick but when you have 50 it’s too overwhelming so you can’t/don’t choose. Now, we are left all alone.
Also, people are opting to keep their options open for as long as possible to avoid commitment instead of picking one person. And, if they do finally commit they wonder if they really made the right choice because they are fully aware that there are plenty of other options out there.
What all daters need to realize that commitment offers a learning experience and fulfillment that dating 50 different people can’t teach you, or give you the trust and connection to make you truly happy.
IF….you are one of the rare people who loves to go out with a different person every night and not truly connect, please just say it on your dating profile or tell them straight out when you meet them in person so you don’t hurt anyone, and more importantly, waste their time. Don’t be selfish, be honest. There are plenty of people that can’t truly connect with another human for whatever reason, you all need to date each other, not pretend that you can be in a loving relationship and know how to love.
Health people who know how to love don’t care for shallow relationships that lack depth, they want more and deserve it.
Some people were so hurt by their ex or have a severe fear of commitment, they just can’t connect and truly be vulnerable with another human. Get rid of those individuals as soon as you see the signs. They need therapy if they want to learn to be in a healthy relationship, you can’t fix them or change them.
In our 20’s we tend to want all those superficial things that don’t make us happy. As we get older we know that money, hobbies, jobs that we tolerate, superficial friends and numerous sexual partners are not going to fulfill us, but one loving kind person who has our back that will hold our hand when we die will.